As a newly minted development officer at the University of Oregon, I had both misconceptions to overcome and growth ahead of me. On my very first donor visit—with a retired judge—I came prepared with research and full confidence that he could make a major gift. I jumped quickly to the ask, without taking the time to build a philanthropic relationship.
That meeting was a turning point. I learned that every donor brings a unique lived experience and personal circumstances. Despite a wealth rating suggesting he could make a $100,000+ commitment, the judge shared that he was focused on supporting his son and grandchildren. In that moment, I realized that my role as a fundraising professional isn’t just to solicit—it’s to listen, understand, and align philanthropy with what matters most to the donor.
I keep a photo from that meeting in my office as a daily reminder: never forget the humanity in our work.